Massage Therapy: Guest Post

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“Beneficial for Many Conditions”

July 27, 2012

I was approached by Melanie L. Bowen requesting me to consider a guest post for my blog. After reading the article about the benefits of using massage therapy during cancer treatment, I agreed.

When reading her article that follows, you can substitute “MS” every time the word “cancer” is used. Massage is an excellent therapy for persons with MS, giving relief for both body and soul. And this would be true for other chronic illnesses/conditions as well.

Using Massage Therapy During Cancer Treatment

Massage therapy is a growing career field, as most people love to indulge in a good massage. Those who become massage therapists usually do so in order to help people relax. What can be especially satisfying for the therapist is the knowledge that he or she is making a real difference in the life of someone who particularly needs extra special care. That person could be aged or suffering from an injury, from stress or from a chronic illness, such as cancer.

There are many complimentary therapies that can be used alongside traditional cancer treatments. Most doctors now support the use of massage therapy to ease the physical discomfort, anxiety and fatigue that often accompanies having cancer. Depending upon the type of treatment chosen and the stage of disease advancement, the physical effects may be severe.

For example, when a person is suffering from mesothelioma, the pain and stress can be quite overwhelming. Massage gives you the opportunity to help alleviate the emotional distress and physical pain often experienced with this diagnosis.

The benefits provided are numerous. Massage therapy during cancer treatment is considered an integrative intervention. Through skilled hands, you can:

• Increase the flow of blood and lymphatic fluid, helping the body to flush itself
• Ease muscle pain from spasms and built up tension and toxins
• Augment the effects of pain medication while stimulating the release of endorphins
• Decrease inflammation, edema and swelling

There are some precautions to follow while getting a massage while treating cancer. Soft tissue areas should be avoided like:

• The tumor site
• An open wound, a tear or an area of skin breakdown
• A radiation site
• An area effected with redness, pain, swelling and warmth

Current medical and professional studies now demonstrate the efficacy of massage therapy in assisting those with cancer in managing their pain, anxiety, fatigue and depression. Sadly, cancer is increasing and many of those diagnosed are going to look for complementary and alternative medical therapies and integrative interventions.

Keep in mind that there are very minor risks involved in using massage therapy during cancer treatment as long as a physician has given the green light. Massage therapy used during this time in a client’s life can truly make a difference in his or her physical comfort and mental state. Without a doubt, this is one of the most rewarding experiences that you can have.

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For MS patients receiving injections for DMA’s, the same precautions should be followed for soft tissue areas.

I was curious after reading Melanie’s article about insurance coverage for massage therapy for MS and did some research. Medicare said they will cover 80% of the cost, as long as the massage is done by a licensed massage therapist who is employed by a physical therapy facility/center. My insurance carrier, Highmark Blue Cross/Blue Shield, will cover 100% under the same requirement! BC/BS told me this is something they just started in 2011.

So it is worth inquiring about massage therapy with your private carrier. After all these years, it is finally getting the recognition and support it deserves from both doctors and insurance companies.

For those of us with MS, massage is not just a luxury for sore muscles, pain and spasms. It is a necessity, and certainly worth pursuing.

Thank you Melanie, for your contribution and efforts!

www.DebbieMS.com

Stress Management

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“The $1 Million Question: What to Do?”

July 23, 2012

Stress has been analyzed for years to determine if stress affects the body. I roll my eyes at these analyses. Personal experience with MS and anyone with MS I have ever talked to knows stress has a direct impact on us in the short or long term. Or any other chronic disease for that matter.

It doesn’t take a rocket scientist for us to also know that ALL types of stress—physical, mental and emotional–has an impact on MS. While MS research hones in on triggers that bring on MS—viruses, vitamin D deficiency, genetic factors for instance—it seems that the final kicker to bring out the initial MS attack is often the result of an extremely stressful event such as:

*an accident, injury, or sickness

*a horrendous altering personal situation (for example, death, divorce, new  baby, job loss, etc.)

*long-term chronic fatigue from being overworked (such as simultaneouslyworking, raising a family, and running a household while neglecting one’s health…)

And these same long-term chronic stresses can be the precursor for more flare-ups or exacerbations as life goes on. These are serious events that require serious attention.

So let’s forget the “if” in the stress factor and focus on the “what to do about it” part, because that’s what really matters.

The goal? We want to prevent it, minimize it, and/or resolve stress. The buzz-words used today for this is stress management.

Unfortunately, stress is like anything else in today’s society. It comes in countless varieties—type, intensity, duration, onset, frequency—and there are always more than one to deal with. So for starters, one has to sort out what the stresses are and then what’s causing them. Then we can proceed with prioritizing them and finally managing them. It sounds complicated because many times it is. But going through a process to handle them lessens the overwhelming, impossible feeling they give us and helps us focus on the important ones first.

Let’s start with the first bullet above. Obviously, if we have an accident, injury or sickness, we take steps to get cured or better. During this process our symptoms are in the crazy zone from our defunct immune system, medications, fever, etc. So while we are recovering from our physical problem, we have to address the other associated stresses (pain, medication side effects, fatigue, undone domestic chores…).

It’s hard to be patient during this relapse, but it helps if you try to stay calm and focused on the fact that: when the injury/sickness is better, the symptoms will be better. The state of mind and a positive attitude is a powerful force on our well-being and healing process.

Furthermore, it’s important to takes measures to prevent these things from happening in the first place. For example, if you have a mobility problem from fatigue or balance issues, use walking aids to prevent falling and muscle strain; if someone has a cold or flu, don’t go near them…

In the other situations above, when things happen that are out of our control (death, job loss, overworked) stress can be minimized/resolved and here’s how:

    • First and foremost, take care of yourself and your health. Ensure that you eat and sleep. Self-control and mental/emotional effectiveness is enhanced while resistance to getting sick is maintained. Let’s face it, we know how we (re)act when we are tired or hungry. I freak out when I am tired and my husband is a beast when he is hungry; so I head for the bed and he heads for the frig.
    • Seek help and support from others to lessen the burden. Professional counseling, peers and support groups are invaluable for sharing, caring, problem-solving, finding connections and venting in a “safe” environment. Reach out and ask for help from friends, family, neighbors, your religious association, etc. for physical, financial, domestic issues. If you are concerned about humbling yourself or feeling ashamed, don’t be. You would do it for them; let them help you.
    • Learn to say “no” to anything that would overtax you, no matter what the circumstance. List your priorities, and review it frequently.
    • Figure out ways to change your lifestyle. Again, rely on others to help. I was a perfectionist, an independent person, and a constant doer. Therapy and unrelenting fatigue transformed me into a non-perfectionist (so what if the house didn’t get cleaned?), a more dependent person (I let others clean, cook and wash for me), and less of a doer (I made the time to rest in a quiet room at various intervals).

In contrast, short-term stress will cause a worsening of symptoms from an hour up to a day or two. The good news is however, that short-term stress can be remedied quickly and easily when identified.

This can include anything like lack of sleep, an argument, heat or allergies. Having an argument with my husband will frustrate me, causing me to drop things more and throw my legs into spasms. So I take a time-out and find ways to de-stress such as swim/exercise, take a walk around the block, read, phone a friend, read, shop on the internet, deep breathing….whatever works to calm down. Then I am better able to think and cope.

If I’m hot, I’ll cool myself down with ice water or ice packs. Showers and baths are definitely rejuvenating. When I start a new drug, I may have side effects; if the effects don’t reduce in a week or two, I might decide to stop them if the side effects are worse than the benefits I am receiving from them. If the monthly menses are causing too much havoc, it’s time to call the gynecologist. I personally was on a birth control pill for hormone management for years to help me with this problem.

In the past, I have talked to my physicians about different medications to try to help with the stresses/effects of things like depression, anxiety, or insomnia. These are very common issues with MS, and there is nothing wrong with taking something to help us cope. I have successfully used antidepressants, anxiety pills and sleeping aids intermittently over the years.

There is a lot of merit in new alternative therapies such a deep breathing, yoga, pilates, and tai chi to name a few. I have tried them all, and they provide great benefit for relaxation as well as aiding problems associated with symptoms such as weakness, balance, endurance and fatigue. These can be learned from videos, online resources, and local clubs/associations/ MS chapter programs.

There are ways these techniques can be incorporated into daily activities. For instance, deep breathing can be done while showering. Standing on one leg while doing dishes can help with balance.

Whatever it is that can help—medications, alternative therapies, therapy/self help groups etc.—it never hurts to try it out and see if it works for you. As with anything, what works for one person may not work for someone else. And I always say—“Two heads are better than one” in figuring out a problem or solution.

If there is no clear-cut problem or solution, find a peer to talk to. It’s comforting to just unload stresses, secrets and complaints to get it off your chest. There is no one better than a peer or a good, loyal friend to “dump” on. They would do it for you as you would do it for them. And, yes–“misery loves company.”

Finally, it’s okay to just go ahead and vent! Go into a room alone, close the door, and let it out. Scream, yell, cry, swear, or throw pillows. Most of the time I do very well, but then that moment arrives. I give myself a break to let go and lose control. Like a pressure cooker. I earned that right, and so have you. It doesn’t solve anything, but it sure feels good.

P.S. You can always take a stress management class. I never have, but it’s worth a try!

www.debbiems.com

Feet Care, Massage & Reflexology

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“Sole & Soul Therapy”

July 16, 2012

It’s time for a pedicure. I like pretty toes and feet. But I love the therapeutic benefits I get from getting a pedicure.

I never had a pedicure when I lived in Pittsburgh. Shoes were always worn and I thought getting my toes painted was frivolous. Then I moved to Arizona, where the state shoe is a flip flop. That’s lucky for me since I don’t have to wrestle putting on socks and shoes too often. It’s not an easy task for someone who has stiff hands and spastic legs.

Bare feet, also a standard here, also has its benefits besides not having to struggle with footwear. It’s cooler and more comfortable, especially when my feet swell from sitting too long. I can grip the floor better when I stand or take a step or two.

Arizona is a very casual-dressing state; the oppressive desert heat in the summer probably has much to do with it. Yet, most girls and women have their feet all gussied up with color and design—even the sloppiest-looking people.

I like looking nice. Maybe that comes from my upbringing, or Eastern roots. It makes me feel good. I like to match my outfits with my earrings, purse, and footwear when I go out, even if it’s to a grocery store. Finding comfortable and stylish footwear had always been a challenge to me ever since I started having walking problems. It was great when I didn’t have to buy matching footwear anymore, but I still had to have nice-looking feet.

So it didn’t take me long after I settled in to my new home to go to a salon and get a pedicure. That’s when I discovered that a pedicure provides more besides just pretty toes. The therapeutic benefits are enormous.

For me, who has advanced MS, cutting my own toenails and polishing them is quite a challenge. I felt like Dorothy in the Emerald City that first day sitting in a massaging chair, as I watched the gal carefully scrub the bottom of my feet. It was embarrassing that my big toes were stiff like two soldiers when she got started, but she told me to just sit back and relax.

And wow, did I ever! As she cleaned and clipped, I became immersed in the chatter going on in the shop. It was fun looking at what everyone else was choosing to do with their nails—the colors, designs, and sparkles. It was a great escape and mood elevator. Where have I been all these years?

After the girl cleaned up my feet and nails, she asked if I wanted extra massage for my feet. I giggled and said “Go for it!” That is when my eyes really opened wide. I couldn’t believe how good it felt as she skillfully massaged ever toe, every part of my foot, ankles and shins. My stiff, soldier-toes were gone, my feet were aligned perfectly–not inward–and my whole body was relaxed and rejuvenated.

What was going on? Where did my back, feet and shoulder pain go? I knew how beneficial a regular body massage was for my sore neck, shoulder and back muscles, but I never expected in a million years what a foot massage would do for me.

I started researching on the internet and found out that I wasn’t getting just a foot massage; I was actually getting reflexology. I was (and still am) going to a Vietnamese-run shop where the girls were trained to do this. I just didn’t know it because of the language gap—they speak very little English.

The foot has more than 7,200 nerve endings that connect to specific organs, according to the Reflexology Association of America. The top of the foot corresponds to the chest, the Achilles corresponds to the side of the hip, and the big toe links to the brain. Massage and reflexology techniques bring comfort and restore proper nerve flow. Hm– is this the reason why my big toes weren’t standing at attention anymore?

It is a form of alternative medicine. It doesn’t reduce my need for baclofen that I take for spasticity, but it definitely helps my spasticity and is a complementary approach for my bothersome MS symptoms.

I wish I could get a pedicure every week, but our budget won’t allow it. And unfortunately, other forms of alternative medicine such as massage, acupuncture, or yoga are not covered by insurance. But I consider it enough of a necessity to get one (with massage/reflexology) once a month. Fortunately, the shop where I go only charges $25 (plus tip). And gift certificates for birthdays and Christmas are always appreciated.

Relaxation, good company, energized well-being, less pain and pretty toes–all for $25-30 and an hour of time. I think it is a great bang for the buck.

P.S. I should mention that although the shop is filled mostly with women, it’s not unusual to see a guy or two in there as well :).

www.DebbieMS.com

Using Mobility Scooters and Other Assistive Devices

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“Move Forward–not Backward or Not at All!”

One of the National MS Society’s famous phrases is “MS stops people from moving”. Not me! MS may have stopped my legs from moving but it didn’t stop me from moving. And it shouldn’t stop you either.

I never hesitated to use any assistive device and actually sought them out on my own. This is what I say:

Goodbye fatigue and mobility problems. Hello freedom and happiness!

Recently I mentioned to a person with MS that I was getting ready to go do some leisurely shopping at the Mall. She said, “I am so envious that you can go shopping in this heat.” I told her it was time to think about using a scooter. Buy one, rent one, or borrow one.

Through the years, assistive devices have allowed me to be less fatigued, elevating my moods and enabling me to do more. I didn’t overheat as fast since I struggled less in trying to walk. Since I was walking better using the devises, I experienced less muscle and bone stress on my body parts.

Twenty-five years ago when my son was only four years old, I got my first scooter (insurance covered 80% of it). I was still able to walk, but only for short distances. Wanting to keep active, live life and enjoy my son, the scooter enabled me to go to zoos, amusement parks, Disneyworld, shopping malls, etc.

Goodbye danger. Hello safety.

Weakness, poor balance, fatigue, incoordination, foot drop, spasticity…. These symptoms increase your probability of falling and suffering an injury—risking a flare-up and residual damage. Not to mention the pain and inconvenience while you heal if you fall.

Goodbye pride. Hello common sense.

Most people at some in their lives have to use corrective lenses for their vision problems. They don’t think twice about getting them. Eyeglasses are so fashionable these days, and people love the styles and colors available. Others prefer contact lenses instead of glasses for personal reasons; plus, it gives them the ability to have several pair of designer sunglasses to wear.

So what’s the difference if you need to use a device for mobility? In the days when I started using a cane, I had four of them in different colors and styles to match my outfits.

In addition, in today’s world, the stigma of using wheelchairs is going away. The attitude and awareness about using medical devices has changed since the eighties when I first had to use them. People of all ages are often seen in movies and advertising brochures using a wheelchair. You see more people out and about using them. Grocery and retail stores like Target or WalMart have scooters available now for their customers to use. Many places like amusement parks rent wheelchairs and scooters.

Besides, who cares what people think? I do what is best for me. Sometimes I just look at the way people dress, look, and act today….and I should worry about how they look at me?!

And added bonus? People—family and strangers alike—treated me differently when I started using a mobility devise. I looked disabled and received many more offers for help!

A word of caution, however. When you find how relieving it is to use a scooter or wheelchair, never stop your exercise regime. The old saying that “if you don’t use it, you will lose it” has truth to it. I’m a full-time power chair/scooter user, but I still do my daily stretching, balance and strengthening exercises. I use a pool regularly to practice standing and walking—things that I can’t do on land.

So technically, the Society’s phrase is correct in the sense that MS does stop people from moving in the physical sense. But MS shouldn’t stop people from moving forward in life. If you look hard enough, there is a solution to almost everything.

P.S. See my video “Mobility Scooters: Tips on How to Buy” http://youtu.be/TfLtgb2ybb8

www.DebbieMS.com

MS: What is Causing What?

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The “Chicken or the Egg” dilemma

July 2, 2012

The numbness and tingling is spreading.  The muscles are more spastic, stiffer and tighter.  Legs are weaker; coordination and balance are worse.  Walking endurance is lessoned and the fatigue is escalating.

Figuring out what is going on and what to do about it is frustrating and confusing.  And there’s always the chicken-and-the-egg question of trying to figure out what is causing what.  Is my depression (fatigue, etc.) causing a bad day or flareup, or is the bad day/flareup causing the depression (or fatigue, etc.)???

The MS acts.  But wait–or is it reacting?

It’s very easy to blame what the symptoms are doing and how we are feeling on the MS itself.  However, more often than not, the MS is actually reacting to something else.

So how do you know, and what do you do about it?

MS is highly sensitive to an endless list of things, and existing symptoms intensify due to things like:

• weather changes and types of weather (barometer, heat, humidity, storms)
• sickness (colds, allergies…)
• lack of food, water, rest, sleep…
• medication
• stress (temporary physical/emotional/mental, not chronic)
• monthly menses

For example, a fever can immobilize a person with MS.  When the body is cooled down and the fever is gone, the symptoms will subside.  Spending two hours on the phone trying to resolve an insurance problem can escalate fatigue enormously; taking a nap afterward or venting in some way will ease that stress and help calm down those symptoms.

Or, maybe those intensified symptoms are the result of what I refer to as a ‘pay day’.  For example, if I wake up one day feeling great, I might push myself too hard to do extra things.  Then I ‘pay’ for it the next day and can do only half of my normal daily activities.

In situations like these, the worsening of symptoms can last from several hours, to a full day to perhaps several days depending on what the cause is.  Think carefully about things like this relative to recent or that day’s events:  What happened or didn’t happen?  What changed or didn’t change?

When you figure out what the culprit is, it can then be remedied and the symptoms will calm down.  Things go back to their normal state, whatever ‘normal’ is to you. No residual damage.

So when would the MS itself directly cause intensified symptoms or new symptoms that do NOT go away after a few days?  Now we may be talking about an attack, relapse, or flare-up…i.e. when we come out of remission.  It can just happen on its own, but often will be triggered by any major event, such as:

• falls, accidents, sicknesses, infections
• chronic physical, mental or emotional fatigue/stress
• major life occurrences (death, divorce, new baby, abuse…)

In these situations, or in the case when symptoms don’t calm down after a week, when the cold/infection is over, and rest does improve anything, it’s time to put a call into your neurologist to discuss the situation/ask for some help.  The MS may be relapsing and steroids (like Solu-medrol) may be needed to shorten the duration and severity of the relapse.

Over time, being in-tune with your body will help you figure out if it is the chicken or the egg.

www.DebbieMS.com

MS: Reaching Out for Help

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“The Value of a Peer”

June 25, 2012

When I was diagnosed, one of the first things I did was talk to a peer.  Peers are priceless; they help immensely.  There is an instant connection and understanding, bringing both comfort and knowledge.

I could have never survived my MS if I didn’t reach out to peers, and I love it when they reach out to me.  Even as an old veteran of MS, I still find myself reaching out to peers for help and guidance.

Recently, I reached out to a MS peer for a different purpose.  I contacted Sharon Baldacci, author of A SUNDOG MOMENT.  Sharon has lived with MS for thirty-one years like me, and I reached out to her to review my new book, MANAGING MS:  STRAIGHT-TALK FROM A 31-YEAR SURVIVOR.

She responded to my email the very next day and agreed to read it and do a review.  I was shocked at first at the quick and agreeable response but I shouldn’t have been.  There is a camaraderie that exists between MSers.

Over the next few weeks, we emailed little comments back and forth.  Sharon just sent me her review, mentioning that after all these years she learned something new about an MS symptom she deals with from my book.  I, in turn, learned a few things from her; and I found another MS friend I can share with going forward.

Here is Sharon’s review of my book:

June 21, 2012

When I was asked to review Debbie Petrina’s new book, MANAGING MS: STRAIGHT TALK FROM A THIRTY-ONE-ONE YEAR SURVIVOR, I had to chuckle. I too have lived with this illness just as long and didn’t think it was possible to learn anything new.

Boy, was I wrong. This small, easy to read book is a wealth of matter-of- fact information interspersed with her memories that add credibility. I learned more about spasticity here than I knew and also the word `clonus’ that describes exactly what my weaker leg does sometimes. She adds practical tips for dealing with so many of the symptoms, and side effects of medications. The chapters are broken down into advice for the newly diagnosed, symptoms, grieving, heat, and what you can do about the variety of problems that come with MS. There are chapters about dealing with people (and how they deal with us) as well as what she calls the elephant in the closet – suicide.

She also makes it clear that it is the person with MS that is in charge of all decision-making, not the doctors. The doctors are there to give all the information needed for decision-making. She explains clearly why and how she made difficult decisions for her and her family and how it has worked out all for the best. She strongly encourages everyone to do the same. This is an empowering book that doesn’t sugar coat anything but makes the endless details manageable – from her 31-one years of experience. I felt like I was learning from an old friend over a cup of tea.

This should be required reading for doctors, health professionals, MS patients and their families.

Sharon Baldacci, author of A SUNDOG MOMENT

It’s incredible that the internet exists now to offer forums for peers of any situation to connect with each other.

Free.

Everyday when I give thanks in my prayers, I never forget my gratitude to all the MS peers I have interacted with over the years.

www.DebbieMS.com

MS/Chronic Illness: Rest is Critical

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“Recharge those Batteries”

June 24, 2012

This should have been posted last Monday the 18th.  I forgot.  Fatigue will do that to you.  But I will post it anyway, since “later is better than never”………..

I am going to follow my own advice I give to others with MS or chronic illnesses:  Take breaks and rest often to restore mental, emotional and physical stress.

I haven’t been doing that.  I’m exhausted, crabby, in overload and have writer’s block from pushing myself too hard.  With symptoms intensifying, if I don’t slow down I will relapse.

So I am declaring myself on vacation this week and heading for the mountains to camp.  No TV, phone, computer or reading.  Just enjoying nature, sleeping, and visiting other nice campers.

Next week I will be back with another article to post.

www.DebbieMS.com

MS and Heat

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“Rising Heat, Rising Problems”

June 11, 2012

Summer is here.  Temperatures are rising, and so are our frustrations since heat causes MS symptoms to go crazy.  Throw in humidity, and the effect become worse.

Strength and endurance is reduced; fatigue is increased.  Numbing and tingling sensations are compounded, knees buckle, hanging onto furniture and walls are necessary as coordination and balance worsen.

Why is that?

Because heat slows down the conduction of nerve impulses in all people, but is particularly troublesome for MSers.  When a person without MS gets out of a hot Jacuzzi or sauna, they move much more slowly.  By comparison, a person with MS might not be able to walk or stand at all.

Heat caused by weather is not the only culprit.  ANY kind of heat has an adverse affect on MS symptoms– fever, room temperature, over-activity, hot flashes, being in the sun too long, etc.

So what can we do?  Speed up the conduction of those nerves by getting and staying cool.

Ice packs are a favorite of mine; I put them behind my neck, my back, or rub them all over me.  I carry them with me in a little six-pack cooler if I’m at an outing on a hot day.  Taking a frozen plastic bottle of water in the car doubles as an ice pack and ice water at the same time.  Air conditioning is a must.  Some people use cooling vests.  Sit in front of a fan.

Cold ice water and showers are very effective in bringing body temperature down rapidly when overheated. One can go from not walking to walking in a matter of minutes.

Want to sit in the sun to get some vitamin D?  Not a problem—just have a spray bottle with ice water in it to mist yourself, stick an ice pack behind your spine, and drink cold beverages.  Make sure you use a sun block to not only protect your skin but to also prevent sunburn;  sunburn will really raise your body temperature until your skin heals.

Another tip:  a common side effect of bladder medications for some people reduces sweating.  So if you are in the sun or someplace with high temperatures, you will overheat faster.

While dealing with heat is troublesome, there is a bit of good news about Heat & MS that should always be remembered:

Although, heat definitely aggravates the nervous system and will cause symptoms to intensify, heat will not cause a flare-up or attack.

Watch my video about Heat & MS for a live explanation and demonstration–
http://bit.ly/KecZ84

www.DebbieMS.com

Using Perspective and Positive Thinking

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“Overcoming Hardship and Loss”
June 4, 2012

“I had to put my beloved dog down yesterday. I’d rather have him back than the use of my legs.”  That was a tweet I sent out on Friday.

My dog Bear was such a faithful companion for thirteen years.  My son brought him home and gave him to me when he was only five weeks old.  It was love at first sight, and we were inseparable after that initial bond.  He was very sick when I had to make the decision to put him down.  I know I did the right thing, but I feel such sadness and grief right now.

He was my best friend.  He always listened to me, never was mean to me, and stayed by my side no matter what mood I was in.  If I was happy, he was happy. If I was sad, he was sad.  If I left the house without him, he laid by the door until I came home.  Our favorite activity was to take a long walk around the neighborhood every morning and greet the neighbors.

I started to train him to be a therapy dog early, and he was so smart he would put his own toys away.  Bear was so patient and understood my disability. At seventy pounds, he was sturdy and still as I grabbed onto him for balance, or needed help to roll over or stand. I swear if he could push a vacuum cleaner, he would have swept my floors for me.

Dogs are amazing animals.  They are incredibly smart and their senses are keen.  They don’t complain and if treated right, are so devoted; their love is unconditional.  They want to please, and are taught to be useful and obey. They assist police, soldiers, handicapped people, and others in incredible ways.

I am using the power of perspective and positive thinking to help me through my loss:

* Bear was very seriously sick and now he is at peace.  I know in my heart, mind and gut I made the right decision.

*We had thirteen good years together, and gave each other tremendous joy.  I was lucky, but he was lucky too.  He had a lot of love from everyone whether they knew him or not.  He was always fed, walked, brushed, played with and attended to when he was sick or hurt, up until his last breath.

*So many other dogs (or cats, etc.) never have these things.  They are abused, abandoned, or neglected.  Too many loving animals that could have what Bear and I had never get that chance.  In fact, he had a better life than most people on this planet.

*Likewise, even though I have many difficulties with my MS, I also have a better life than most people. My family loves and supports me, I live in a modest but comfortable home, eat well, and have everything that I need except perfect health.  But then again, I tell myself that things could always be a lot worse.  A good friend has a Down’s syndrome daughter; another friend has a severely autistic child.  My brother-in-law lost his 16-yr. child in a bad accident…

*It’s okay to cry or vent out feelings for awhile.  It’s not being weak or emotional; it’s being human.  My husband, son and I are talking about our feelings and memories.

*I am grateful for the sensitivity and kindness others have shown in support of the loss.  What would I do without my family and friends?

Throughout the years I have suffered many hardships and losses–my physical problems from MS; death of a parent, other close relatives and friends; financial and emotional distress from job losses of both my husband and myself—the list is quite long.  I have used my perspective and positive thinking through these difficult situations to help me cope with my grief.  Things happen in life we don’t always understand or think are unfair.  I think experience, age, my MS and attitude have taught me that. It may not work for everyone, but it works for me.

So I will be sad for now but slowly heal in time to the point where my sadness will dissipate and fond memories will replace it.  I will always feel Bear’s loss, but I accept it and will continue to move forward. Life goes on and Bear would want me to go forward with it.

www.DebbieMS.com

World MS Day on May 30, 2012

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Spreading the word: What is Multiple Sclerosis?

May 28, 2012

Many MS organizations and people are doing something for World MS day on Wednesday, and the question “What are you doing?” is asked of us in order to spread the word about MS awareness.

So I’m sending out this article about “What is MS?” to all my friends/contacts via all my online platforms and asking them to forward it on to everybody they are friends with online. I think people need to know what MS is, not just be aware of it.

What is MS?

Multiple Sclerosis is an autoimmune, inflammatory disease of the central nervous system, which includes the brain, spinal cord and optic nerves. That means that potentially anything controlled by the CNS can be affected–such as motor function, sensory function, sight, or cognitive/emotional functions.

It is not fatal, contagious, or congenital. There is no cure; the cause is unknown. The onset is usually from 20-50 years of age and most victims will have some form of progressive disability over time. That means that because there is no cure, the majority of persons afflicted (2.5+ million worldwide) will become disabled during the decades of their lifetime with no way to fix the damage. Current estimates are that 20-25% will end up in a wheelchair.

From the day those of us received our diagnosis, we have no idea what course our disease will take. What will be affected, in what way or how rapidly will we be affected, and how disabled will we become? Each case is different. MS is unpredictable and uncontrollable; the losses never stop, the grieving process never ends.

There are new drugs that are trying to slow the progression, and meds to help with relieving symptoms and shortening relapses. But they all have side effects. Nothing is available yet to prevent MS or restore most function lost resulting from its damaging effects; research continues to someday conquer these.

In the meantime, there are many things one can do to manage MS as effectively as possible, and find support to remain hopeful in stopping MS.

Please spread the word and pass this on. Thank you!
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