On the cusp of our MS diagnosis, we are gripped by fear and panic. With no cure, we envision ourselves entering a dark tunnel of unknowns. How do we begin living with it? What will life be like? What will be at the other end of the tunnel? A never-ending list of questions follow.
Years ago, I read a story about a lady who was on her way to her dream vacation in Italy. Somehow, the plane got diverted, and she ended up in Holland. The dream was shattered, and now she was in a country she knew nothing about. Grief—denial, anger, sadness, bargaining… Having no choice in the matter, she finally accepted her fate.
The lady took action and learned about Holland as quickly as she could. She discovered that Holland turned out much better than she expected. There were tulips, windmills, Anne Frank’s house, Van Gogh Museum, amazing architecture, canals, gouda cheese………
Forty-two years ago, I was looking into that dark tunnel. I took action to make the best of an unplanned situation. Now, 42 years later, I’m on the other side of the tunnel. It all turned out much better than I expected. As I travelled through the tunnel, the light at the end got bigger and brighter. The grief in my “Good grief!” moment evolved into something I call “good” grief. It’s all explained in my book.
Opportunities aren’t opportunities unless you act on them. If you make the best out of an unplanned circumstance, it may turn out better than you thought.
Is there light at the end of the tunnel? The choice is yours.
Author of Managing MS
My initial diagnosis was also 42 years ago.
I think the choice I made 8 years before to follow Jesus Christ and live for him was the main reason that I was not overwhelmed by the darkness of the tunnel of MS.
But every day I have to make the choice again as my health declines more rapidly than the effects of “normal aging”. I can look at the darkness or focus on the light, His light.
So I agree with you. Whether a person is a Christian or has other beliefs by which they live, they still have to choose.
During the pandemic I had several opportunities to be involved with other people which I acted on. Oddly enough, my involvement was made possible because of the restrictions imposed during the pandemic. I connected with other people on Zoom. But hopefully soon we will work together face-to-face.
all the best,
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