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What Do You Do All Day?

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March 15, 2022

My occupation is now “retired” after being on long-term disability for years.  Child rearing is over. From time to time, the question surfaces, “What do you do all day?”

Now that’s one of those questions that can be tricky to answer, like the question, “How do you feel?”  It depends on who’s asking and what mood you’re currently in.  It’s
a judgment call.

If it’s a casual acquaintance, I give them a few of the basics: I rest intermittently, exercise or swim, read, write, and volunteer when I can.  One of those subjects will usually switch the conversation toward another direction.  There is no sense in getting into the details of what a typical day is really like; it would probably make them uncomfortable, speechless, and sorry they asked.

Besides, everyone throughout their life has something of their own to deal with. Or, getting too specific about what I do can lead into unwanted conversation.  For example, there are the people who want to give advice about all kinds of things, which can get annoying if they really do not understand MS.  And then there are the “one-uppers”; who are more interested telling a personal story that is far worse than your situation.

But occasionally, someone asks me that question in a way with a certain tone that will get a rise out of me.  “So, what do you do all day?”   Even when I used a cane, then a walker, and now a wheelchair; I usually “look so good” and am smiling and perky.  I keep busy, rarely complaining.  It’s like they’re wondering why I got disability from the government or why I don’t want to go out somewhere.

Like most people with MS, I do things on my own as much as possible and strive to maintain independence. But that sometimes can backfire on me. It conveys a message that “I can do it; all is well…” Then if superwoman starts to fall apart, I’m asked “What’s wrong with you?”

We folks with MS endure invisible things like the fatigue, depression, numbness, and weakness that make life complicated.  It doesn’t matter whether we are in a wheelchair or not. We have kids and grandkids, chores to do, errands to run, households to maintain, finances to manage.  Life without a chronic illness is challenging enough.  Throw in MS and the time and energy it takes to do a task double or triples. Often, many things get done differently, partly, or not at all.

But how do you explain all this?  Should you try?  Do they really want to know?  If you think so, maybe take the opportunity to say, “not as much as I’d like, I can use some help.” Or is it easier to just say one thing, and then ask in return “What do you do all day?”

Again, it’s a judgement call.

Debbie Petrina
Author of Managing MS
Community Advocate for MultipleSclerosis.net 
www.DebbieMS.com

 

Kristie Salerno Kent’s New Memoir “Dreams”

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“My Journey with Multiple Sclerosis”

December 10, 2013

Kristie Salerno Kent is a singer, songwriter, producer, wife and mom. At the prime of her life, she is gorgeous, successful and now an author of a book. To look at her or listen to her, you would say she is lucky. But she will tell you that at one time in her life she didn’t feel lucky. Kristie has MS.

In her new memoir, “Dreams: My Journey with Multiple Sclerosis”, Kristie travels full circle as she talks about her dreams before her MS began, how her life and dreams became disrupted with her MS diagnosis/progression, and how she overcame the disruption through her music to once again dream and fulfill her life. Kristie feels blessed.

As Kristie openly tells her story, she takes us through her steps of the grieving process that one goes through when diagnosed with a chronic illness: denial, depression, anger and finally acceptance. Within the context of own experience, she specifically incorporates details of the challenges one faces with MS—the invisible, unpredictable and interfering symptoms—that create confusion, limitations and fear since there is no cure. Am I imagining this? What should I do? Where should I go? Who shall I tell and what do I say? How can I make this better?

She experiences the other severe implications of MS like fatigue and heat, and how they significantly impact even the smallest tasks. How can you explain these things to someone and help them understand the disturbances they cause when on the outside “you look so good?”  Kristie will tell you about this.

As the years go on in her life, she also tells about the adjustments, changes and choices she made to move forward in her life while never losing hope. Kristie writes in a fashion that is engrossing, easy to understand, and inspiring. One main message in “Dreams” is hope. Hope for herself. Her hope to help others understand the complications of living with MS. And hope that despite having MS, one can continue to pursue dreams.

When Kristie overcame her denial and depression, she wrote and produced her first album, “Believe.” She wants others to believe in themselves to fulfill their dreams despite difficult challenges that life can cause them. Kristie also produced an award-winning documentary, “The Show Must Go On,” to explain the symptoms of MS (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6oraM8IF2Gc). Now a mom of two small children, Kristie is a paid spokesperson for Acorda Therapeutics and travels across the U.S. to advocate for people living with MS.

The holiday season is meaningful. Starting with Thanksgiving, it is a time to be thankful for what you have and can do. Christmas and its sister holidays are a time of peace, joy, love and giving. With the New Year comes hope, new dreams, and reflection.

So if you want to read a book that packages all those things together, read Kristie Salerno Kent’s “Dreams: My Journey with Multiple Sclerosis,” available through a free (yes—free!!) download at www.DreamsTheEBook.com.

You will learn, relate, and walk away feeling inspired. I certainly did! And tell your family and friends about it, too. The more people both with and without MS understand this neurological disorder, the better off we will all be. 🙂

www.DebbieMS.com

Managing MS: Straight Talk…

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“Why Read This Book?”

There are many books about multiple sclerosis. If you want or need to read something about this neurological disorder, I’m going to explain why Managing MS: Straight Talk From a 31-Year Survivor is THE book you should read.

I will give you my pitch that my book is unique because of its presentation, content, creditability and tone:

• MS is complicated to understand. I make it easy to understand using a “what to know—what to do” format for a wide array of subjects like symptoms, treatments, interpersonal relationships…

• It’s short, inspiring, and interesting. People who have read it so far are amazed at what they learned in the short span of only several hours it takes it read. Wonderful reviews have been received from a wide range of readers.

• People are afraid of MS. Even the sound of “multiple sclerosis” is chilling. A main objective when I wrote the book was to help reduce the fear of living with MS, no matter if you have it or not. I felt it crucial to use a tone, words and expressions that would enable the reader to feel comfortable. I clear up misconceptions about this disorder.

• Managing MS is accurate. Information and resources contained within have been endorsed by a variety of health care professionals, including one of the best neurologists (MS Specialist) in Phoenix, AZ.

• I am a peer. I lived the major part of my adult life with MS and survived it. This book is not a story about me, although I do share personal experiences to explain things. It is a guidebook incorporating my experiences with thousands of people I interacted with over 25 years. I have been and continue to be a volunteer, educator, counselor, and researcher in the MS community.

• It’s affordable/ available in all formats. Even if you pick up a few tips, it’s worth it.

• There is information that is useful to those living with other chronic diseases, such as how to handle fatigue, doctors, or interpersonal relationships.

I invite you to visit my website www.DebbieMS.com  that gives much information about me, my credentials and Managing MS: Straight Talk From a 31-Year Survivor. It also includes self-help videos, weekly articles I write, other activities I engage in to help persons dealing with MS, and an email address where questions can be submitted to me. Here are some quick links within my site:

• A profile The National Multiple Sclerosis Society posted on their website this summer. http://nationalmssociety.org/online-community/personal-stories/debbie-petrina/index.aspx

• A book trailer I recently created myself http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4X0YErTxXbM&feature=youtu.be

• Orange Awareness Campaign for MS I created and launched (this is fun!) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JtMjKXP4dQU&feature=plcp

• A “Meet-the-Author” video at the bottom of the Home page on my website that discusses many aspects of MS, not just the book.  Great for “newbies.” www.DebbieMS.com

I want to emphasize that this book is about managing MS. There are many things a MSer can do to manage and control (yes, control!) both the symptoms and the course of their disease, both with and without medications. But this all takes knowledge, support, work, dedication and discipline. There is no magic pill or injection that will manage, fix or control MS. Not yet.

So if you are looking for a book about multiple sclerosis that is an autobiography, full of specific medical terminology, or containing the latest breakthrough drug or study, this is not that type of book.

www.DebbieMS.com
Author/MS Counselor/Living with MS

Give a Gift of Knowledge & Support

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“A Holiday Stocking Stuffer”

November 26, 2012

Every week I write an article with substance for persons dealing with multiple sclerosis. As the holiday season is upon us, this week’s article is about giving a gift of substance to someone or even to yourself. Like a good book about a serious illness.

I wrote my book, Managing MS: Straight Talk From a Thirty-One Year Survivor, to help others dealing with MS. But Managing MS also has many chapters suitable for persons dealing with other chronic illnesses/autoimmune diseases, or for people in general who want to learn about something new.

This upbeat self-help guide is a knowledge and support tool. Acquiring more knowledge and support about something that is unknown will result in less fear, mystery and misconceptions about it. Packed with information and inspiration, Managing MS will leave the reader feeling both good and grateful in addition to the knowledge acquired– whether one does, or does not, have a serious illness or disease.

Many have told me it is a book of substance. Recently, a man approached me when I was volunteering at an MS Walk, and said he came for the purpose of meeting me. He read my book and wanted to thank me in person and sign it for him. Diagnosed just a year ago, he said it changed both his and his family’s lives. The entire staff of my PCP’s office read the book, and my PCP bought copies to give to a MS patient that would come in for an office visit.

It is a short, easy read of less than 150 pages (with resources) that would make a great stocking stuffer.

BUT…If my book is not of interest, get a book—any meaningful, inspiring book—that will give knowledge and support of a subject. It will be a worthwhile gift and a great stocking stuffer.

After all, ‘tis the season of sharing, giving, helping and hope. 🙂

www.DebbieMS.com
Book trailer    http://debbiems.com/book_278.html